Dating man busy with kids
Kids are a huge responsibility when two people are sharing the responsibilities, but now that she's taking care of the kids by herself, she's definitely going to have her hands full.Be patient and realize that although you may be an important part in her life, those kiddos are at the top of her list. I know a man in his position needs an understanding girlfriend who’s not going to make big drama if he has to cancel plans at the last minute, and, because my life is relatively stress-free, I can be pretty flexible (I’m pretty easygoing anyway.)But lately his family have been visiting (they live in another country,) and he’s magically found time to spend first with his parents, and then with his sister. I thought we were working towards something serious, but my confidence has been really shaken.I’d hoped to meet his family while they were over, but now I’ve found out that he hasn’t actually told them about me, apart from the fact that he’s ‘with someone.’ I get that things are complicated, and that he has a very shaky relationship with his ex-wife so he’s going to be cautious about letting her know that he has a new girlfriend, and I also get that I don’t get to meet his son until we’re much more established. I’ve asked him for time to talk things through and he’s agreed, but I’m really having to push him to make time for our conversation. Thanks.1) Your boyfriend doesn’t have much time or energy to give to your relationship.2) Your boyfriend hasn’t fully integrated you into his world.
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But it is hard being third on his list: son, job, and then me.
Also, we haven’t been out on a proper ‘date’ since the first one: we usually spend time at each other’s houses, whenever he gets a free moment, but we have lots of communication in between and I really felt that things were starting to build towards something good between us. And I’m wondering if he can possibly be that interested in me.
The nature of his business is that it ebbs and flows and he’s been very busy since we met, so I’ve accepted that we have limited time together, and that if he has any serious free time, he’s going to spend it with his son if he can.
I particularly like that last part, by the way, as I wouldn’t want to know him if his son wasn’t a priority in his life.