Just be straight up if you don’t want to see us anymore.Nothing drives me crazier than dating a guy who is a total flake. Girls like a guy who can make a plan and stick to it.If you are not there yet, either physically or emotionally, and need more time… For most people (women especially) an emotional connection is a vital precursor to physical intimacy. In our culture that fact has been lost, with our media blasting us daily with messages about how to become more attractive to others. For example, if there is a lot of alcohol involved, or the situation is uncomfortable, or if there is no protection available…these are times when people say no, whether or not they are interested, in theory, in sex with someone. ” There are two participants in this conundrum, the no-sayer, and the no-hearer.Now that being said, physical attraction that does not exist at first can and often does grow… No-to-sex has always been a heated and emotionally fraught topic. For this blog, I am focusing on those who wish to say NO, and do not feel empowered to do so.While my dating life has come to an end with my recent marriage, I still hear countless stories about what women wish men could do differently while dating. If you’re having trouble meeting someone, you might want to consider signing up for a dating app. I want to share with you my from our perspective as ladies.Some might be pretty, some might be ugly, but either way they are real stories that women share. For whatever reason, if you say you’re going to call… We have lives too, but if you tell us you’ll call us, chances are we’re excited about that.Not just that, but you will get what you want and need in a relationship.
Whether that’s setting the date and picking the place, or leaning in for a kiss, show us you’re someone with a little initiative.
The person who hears “NO” has two tasks: Know thyself. This means understanding what your personal goals are for a relationship, and what your boundaries are—both physical and emotional.
I’ve written about this many times in different ways, but the gist of this idea is that keeping your boundaries ensures healthy self-esteem because you are living in alignment with your core values.
He did this even when we were first dating, and still does. Even though it’s scary, the most masculine thing you can possibly do is be honest with us.
It’s such a small and simple act, but chivalry is a huge turn on. I know some girls might even argue with me over this, and don’t get me wrong, I’m fine with chipping in for drinks/dinner when out on a date. I have girlfriends who keep making excuses for a guy they like who is blowing them off because he is suddenly “really busy”.